by I Do Magazine
You agreed to have no more than 125 guests at your wedding. But you've just realised that between the two of you, you have 300 people you want to invite. Now what?
• Sit down with your intended and list everyone you can think of to invite.
• Use the one-year rule for friends: If you haven't had a meaningful conversation with this person within the last year, don't invite him or her.
• Ask your parents on both sides to help you select people from the list.
• Avoid the "If I invite this cousin, I must invite all cousins" trap. And don't feel obligated to invite people who invited you to their wedding. Relationships change.
• Exclude children if possible. Suddenly a family of six is a manageable party of two.
• Address the invitations only to those you intend to invite. If your single friend rates an invitation and isn't seeing anyone seriously, you don't have to include "and guest."
• Keep the list limited to personal friends. Do you hang out with co-workers away from the office? If not, don't invite them.
• Make sure that the same number of people are invited from each side. This will prevent in-laws from feeling cheated.
• Keep in mind that on average, about 25 per cent of your guests won't be able to make it.
• Make a first and second list. Put the absolutely-must-invites on the first list, and as the RSVPs come in, send an invitation from the second list for each regret.
• Remember that these are people you're sharing your special day with. Outside of very immediate family members, you aren't required to include anyone on your invitation list.
• As a thoughtful gesture, set aside a group of 6 to 10 invitations for the parents to send to whoever they like that didn't make it onto the regular guest list.